Persevere in the heart, pure in the moment, goodbye 2021!

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In fact, in the year of 2021, my living condition is really average, and my life is as plain as water. It has been a long time since I have nothing to make me particularly happy.

Isn't it a New Year's Day holiday a few days ago? I went out for two days and was so tired that I didn't make time until the evening when the holiday was almost over, so I wrote this article.

In fact, the whole family basically didn't go out to play much this year. Except for the trip back to the hometown in the middle, I basically had nothing to do with other things like traveling. Even the Confucius Temple and Laomendong at the door of the house have been out for more than half a year. Haven't been there once.

Looking back on the year 2021, it has gone by so fast, I have experienced a lot and gained a lot, but I also have some regrets.

I don’t want to set up a flag here, I just want to write something indifferent and talk about some changes in my life and mentality in 2021.

I thought of where I wrote it.

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The main focus of this year is still on work. Although the main work in 2021 is still the same as in previous years, we will continue to meet requirements, write code, launch projects, and deal with problems. However, in the past year, with the help of the boss, he began to assist Responsible for a part of project management and technical management, and also touch some products, I am tired and happy about it.

When I was immersed in coding before, I didn’t think that as long as I cultivated my own one-third of the land, everything would be fine, but now when I occasionally deal with problems involving people, I can only say that things are often more annoying than expected. .

I remember that when I was reading the book "Inside the C++ Object Model", there was a sentence that said:

Managing a software team is like herding a group of proud cats (from: "Inside the C++ Object Model")

You taste, you taste carefully.

So I heard that many programmers also want to switch to management or product positions. To tell the truth, I am waiting for you, but this may not be what you want.

In fact, after working for so long, the edges and corners are being smoothed out bit by bit, and the passion and ideals that I had when I left the campus seem to be getting less and less. Anyway, this feeling is very subtle.

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At the beginning of this year, I set myself a big goal that must be adhered to for a long time this year, which is to insist on reading more miscellaneous books.

And I also shared this year's book list before: "Brother Yang's Book List This Year" , at that time, my plan was to finish reading one or two books a month to complete the goal.

Looking back at 2021 now, the thing that I am most satisfied with is that I have persevered in reading. I have basically read all 16 books, and I decided to read two of them. When I have a chance, I want to make a video about the annual reading review, but this Flag will not stand for now.

Again, I think it’s good for science and engineering students to take time out to read some miscellaneous books other than technical majors, mainly to broaden their thinking and vision, so that you won’t take your own trivial things too seriously. tangled.

Programmers should value code, but not just code. Many soft skills outside of code are also important for survival today.

Reading time will make people feel very calm and at ease. Just relying on the time at the desk to read, it brings tenderness and firmness to our hearts. In the future, I also decide to continue to persevere in this matter.

I have basically made a list of reading books in 2022, and I plan to write an article to share it in a while.

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This year's weight has increased by more than three kilograms compared to previous years, and now the weight is close to 72kg. . .

It's a pity that fatty liver is still on my body, but fortunately, it has not become serious, and it is still mild, which fully shows that the "exercise" thing is completely on the street this year. . .

Of course, I also summed up the original (jie) cause (kou) for myself, or because I was too busy (lan). . .

I remember that when I was studying in school, my weight remained at 64, 65kg, never more than 130kg. In the past few years since I walked out of the campus, my weight has increased by more than ten pounds.

At this time, I unconsciously thought of the sentence again: "In the adult world, except for being fat, there is nothing easy."

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Another thing I did this year to greatly reduce my stress was to pay off most of the mortgage ahead of schedule, because I really hate the feeling of being in debt. The feeling of being bound.

After repaying some in advance, the monthly repayment of the mortgage is only more than 1,000 points, and the spirit is relaxed a lot, but the money saved by the work in the past few years is almost the same.

Speaking of mortgages, the house I live in now was bought at the end of 2016, and the mortgage was a lot of money at that time. In fact, the housing prices in Nanjing had already risen by that time, but at that time, I was just in need, so I still insisted on getting on the bus for the first time.

Although at that time I always felt that I was getting on the car at a high position and shivering, but compared with the current housing price, it was still a lot lower, and it has risen by more than 10,000 in the past few years. Moreover, mortgages were easier back then, loans were easier to apply for, approved very quickly, and interest rates could be discounted by 10% or even 15%.

So now, I am very grateful for the decision. It's not to say how much money I made on the house. After all, I live alone, so I can't talk about making money, but I did save a lot of money, and I'm relieved after thinking about it.

In the past, I used to feel anxious about paying thousands of mortgages every month, but now the mortgage does not cause any pressure on me, so people are much more relaxed.

In fact, it is reasonable to say that if young people do not have a mortgage, their life should be very modest.

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I remember a little friend asked, has there been any change in your current mentality as you get older? Has anxiety increased?

It is so. Anxiety is definitely there, but with some subtle changes.

Talking about the change of mentality, I thought about it seriously. In fact, I was most anxious when I was in the second and third years of work.

why? Because at that time, the survival skills were too single, and there were too many things that were not known. There was always an unknown and uncontrollable feeling about the future.

Besides, I was always thinking about changing careers at that time. Everything started from scratch. Facing unfamiliar people and environments, I lacked skills and experience. Moreover, the economic pressure was very high at that time. I really didn’t dare to mess around. a feeling of.

This year, I feel that my mentality has become more calm. First, it is because subjectively I will have a little more confidence in the mastery of work skills and survival skills, and secondly, there is really no economic pressure objectively, which is very important. a real change.

Although there will definitely be occasional anxiety and confusion, but now I will have more experience in dealing with confusion and anxiety.

In fact, one of the best ways to face confusion and anxiety is to act in time to enrich yourself, whether it is hard skills or soft skills. Simply thinking too much is useless. Regarding this issue, you can look at Mr. Li Mu's article: "Optimizing Your Life with Stochastic Gradient Descent" , which may inspire each other.

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There is also a small enjoyment this year, which is preparing to form a small private life team of our own with our classmates.

Of course, this idea was originally proposed in the middle of the year, when I met with some good friends, and a classmate proposed it, because he had more contacts, more resources, and more experience.

One more idea, one more way out, and then we coincide. Of course, there are still many details of the implementation that have not been discussed. This year, this year, we will strive for a clear picture.

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Everything in the past is a prologue.

2021 is over and a new year has begun.

When it comes to my wishes for the new year, I don't want to set up a flag. The wish is very simple: I hope that in the new year, I can be healthy, be more calm and calm towards people and things, and not be humiliated.

Finally, I wish you all the best of luck in the new year!

Just write it here, see you next time.